Archive | March, 2013

Teak on the Hudson – Girls Night out!

24 Mar

Hoboken- the only place in northern New Jersey where it is acceptable to act like a drunken slob, and be accompanied by even more drunken slobs.

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Now, if you aren’t into the whole “bar” scene also known as a chill place where you just get blacked out and flirt with strangers who will buy you a drink so you can make them look cool by the bar, there are more options for you in Hoboken. (Yet another reason why Hoboken is the best!)

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Teak on the Hudson, which is located on 16-18 Hudson Place, Hoboken New Jersey 07030 – is the place for you. The greatest thing in my opinion about this place is the fact it is seriously about a 1-minute walk from the train station. This means, you can get off the train, walk 10 feet, get to your destination, and not have to leave that early to ensure you don’t miss your train.

AWESOME!

Also, this place is a lot classier than what you’re going to find anywhere else. The décor is beautiful from their lighting to their unique decorations – it makes you feel like you are at a venue in New York City! Also, they have a cool fish tank that is lit up across the bar, which automatically gives you a classy feeling!

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Teak on the Hudson always seems to have the hottest beats that make you want to dance from the minute you walk in to the minute you leave. Their music is usually “house” music and a variety of songs that are popular during the time you are there.

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Another thing great about Teak is the fact not only can you go there to dance and have a great night, you can get an early start and go for lunch, dinner, and they even have a sushi bar! (Hopefully not from the LED fish tank!)

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An example of an appetizer from the Teak Dinner menu is crab spinach dip that is creamed spinach topped with crabmeat served with flat bread and topped with cheddar cheese and salsa! Well, if you ask me- that sounds delicious!

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Appetizers are a smart idea if you know you’ll be drinking all night so you have something in your stomach but you also aren’t full!

 

This is awesome that you can actually go to one destination and have dinner, and then know you can stay there for a night of fun. This was a very strategic idea of the owners of Teak!

 

The lounge in Teak is beautiful as well. They have a very virtual looking scene where there are big screens showing video images set to the beat of the music!

 

The best part in my opinion of Teak is the view! You can completely see the Hudson, hence why the name of the place is called Teak on the Hudson. You will never be disappointed here especially when you and your single friends are out here!

Whenever you go and pass Teak, there is always a live crowed outside and inside and you can hear the music from outside. It is a great environment if you are looking for more of a “classy” night with you and your girlfriends!

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WHY!

23 Mar

Hey everyone. Quick morning thought as I woke up. I promise i’ll be posting more – been busy (i mean successful…..???) Ha!

 

Anyways, this is a teaser of what posts are soon to come 🙂 Feel free to give suggestions!

  • More on domestic violence
  • Celebs that are successful
  • Outfits
  • Snacks to bring on the go
  • Intern Tips
  • Bad words to call girls
  • OTHER!

Can’t wait -Again, thanks for all the positive feedback! Loving it!

La’Nae

22 Mar

This is a serious post everyone. After doing much research on the subject of women domestic violence, I came across a girl who was not only beautiful on the inside, but as well as the outside. I told her about my blog, and that I would appreciate it if I could interview her because I could see she had her own blog about domestic violence.

 

I realized after conducting the interview, sometimes no matter how hard you want to leave- you just can’t. You are trapped. No woman should ever feel like that, helpless- anything and unfortunately Le’Nae Jenkins from Massachusetts had this happen to her.

 

Luckily, she was able to turn to religion to help her gain back her confidence and ultimately get her life back! Below are some of the questions that I asked La’Nae, and she was more than welcoming with her answers. I want to thank you La’nae for being so kind to me and help me try to stop this terrible subject that happens everyday.

 

Also, girls – learn that leaving won’t hurt you more—it’ll help.

 

First off – Why do you think it is you longed for love? Why did you need that “male” compassion? Did it make you feel better knowing you had a male in your life

 

I longed for love because growing up I didn’t have a mother or father to show that to me. Many may think it doesn’t affect a child, but in all reality it does. You begin to think that you did something wrong for them to leave you or that you weren’t good enough. Also, a father is an important piece to a child’s life whether male or female. But, for a female when you don’t have a father you want to receive love from men. If you don’t have a dad telling you how pretty you are, etc. you expect a man to give that to you. At the time it did make me feel better knowing i had a male in my life who “cared” for me. But deep inside I felt like I had a hole in my heart, as if something was still missing. Looking back now I realize that I needed God & ONLY Him to fulfill the hole & desires of my heart.

 

Besides turning to god, what have you done to be able to have positive relationships with men since the abuse?

 

It’s tough to answer that question because without God it would be impossible to have positive relationships with the opposite sex. I would still be broken inside, but God transformed my mind & now I’m able to see men as friends as well as brothers. I don’t only see them as “potential mates” now.

Without God I would be bitter towards men or just continue to think if they were friendly with me that they liked me & I would fall in the same trap again.

 

Did you think the abuse was your fault? Why did you still stay with him?

 

There were times where I thought the abuse was my fault because of the manipulation. He would say things such as “Well if you didn’t do this then this wouldn’t have happened.” So I would think I was the cause of it all. I stayed with him because I was afraid to leave. I also stayed because my heart was already open to him. He was the only male who truly “showed me love” even through the abuse.

 

Did you tell anyone you were getting hurt either emotionally or physically?

 

12:41pm

I never told anyone about me getting hurt physically because I didn’t want them forcing me to leave him. I wanted to make that decision on my own. Emotionally, I’m sure everyone could tell I wasn’t happy at some point in the relationship. We wouldn’t be together as much and he was well known so I’m sure everyone knew what he was doing behind my back. It was hard trying to put on a mask as if I was happy when everyone knew what was going on.

 

How long did the abuse last for before you had enough?

 

The abuse lasted for a year and a few months.

 

 How long of a process was it to be able to trust someone and open up to them again, while making yourself vulnerable?

 

The process took years for me to be able to open up to anyone and trust again. God was trying to heal me but I always ran away from the process. It was even hard opening up to God about things even thou He knew my hurts and pains. It wasn’t until the beginning of this year that Jesus finally set me free from the hurt. Now I’m able to open up and be transparent showing everyone what God did for me. I’m able to show everyone that God is able to do amazing things.

 

 

if you had the chance to see him for 10 minutes, what would you say or do, if he were restrained

 

Would you take revenge on him and kick his ass, or take the high ground and not speak to him, or just say like “you really hurt me, physically and emotionally. but you can’t hurt me anymore”

 

What would you tell girls who think the only way to be happy is if they are in relationships? What advice will you tell them to love them first before any man?

 

or girls who think that the only way to be happy is through relationships, I would say that they’re wrong. A man cannot make you happy because as humans we all fall short. He will always disappoint us & it’s selfish to expect high expectations or perfection from a human being when we’re not perfect ourselves. I’m speaking from experience when I say that the ONLY relationship you can be happy in is a relationship with Jesus Christ. I never saw how it was possible when people told me that because I can’t see Him. But I know from experience & how He changed my life that I can only be fulfilled through a relationship with Him. It’s definitely important for a woman to make sure she sees worth in herself before she dates a man. If you don’t see your own worth & value, how can you expect anyone (not only a man) to see that in you? The Bible says women are worth MORE than rubies!!!! You’re a RUBY in God’s eyes! How much more do you deserve a man who loves God & treats you like a ruby! Also, a woman can definitely be happy without a man. If you’re not happy without one then you’ll never be happy even with him because like I said you’ll keep expecting perfection from him. Only God can truly satisfy the desires of your heart. I promise you that. I know from experience. Don’t cling to human beings who will fail you, but cling to the God who is EVERLASTING & who will NEVER fail you. He is faithful, I promise you that.

 

lso, before dating you must be happy with who you are in Christ. Find your value in HIM. Couples should come together when they’re already happy as a single. They shouldn’t come together to find happiness in each other,

 

ALSO – Can a girl be happy without a man? What are your views on this?

 

 

Did you become religious after the fact, or has god played a role in your life always?

if the former, how has your faith helped you heal

 

Well I always believed in God. It wasn’t until near the end of the relationship that I heard about salvation through Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ died to save me from my sins and saved me from hell so that I can have eternal life in Him & full restoration. I’ve come to know & understand that being a Christian doesn’t involve religion but a true, pure, heartfelt relationship with God. My faith in God has definitely helped me heal because He’s the only one who could truly understand my pain. It didn’t matter how many counselors I saw, they were human like me & they couldn’t really get into the depth of my heart where e pain needed to be taken from. God was only able to touch my heart & uproot pains & hurts that I tried to suppress. He helped me step by step through prayer & really seeking after Him

Abusive Relationships? Get outta here!

17 Mar

You love him, but he calls you names. You love him, but he doesn’t appreciate you. You love him, but he beats you. You love him but he tells you not to tell anyone or he’ll break up with you.

It’s disturbing to even think that so many girls are put in the above situation, and let it happen. I know it’s hard to say what you would do unless you were in the specific setting, but I feel as if even though I was in love, if a guy ever were to disrespect me whether it is verbally or physically, I would leave him in a second.

I guess this has to do with part of me being so independent, which has always worked to my advantage.  When I think of girls who actually would stay with men who abusive them, it makes me feel angry, and confused. I don’t get why a girl would keep herself in that position if they were being hurt. However, I think this goes to a psychological chapter of a girls life that if one is insecure or feels they need “love” they will do whatever it takes to stay with that person, which is truthfully upsetting for m

I personally know one girl who was abusive by her boyfriend, and actually stayed with him. Don’t get me wrong, this girl is a pretty girl, smart, funny, and extremely put together, however her confidence level is down the drain. When she finally told us that she was being hurt and abusive by her former ex boyfriend, it made me shocked.

The one thing I learned after doing research about domestic women violence is that most of the people who are being abused are those who do not show any emotion and act like everything is okay, which was the case in the above situation.

Some facts that I thought were super crazy and interesting regarding domestic violence that I found from www.domesticviolencestatistics.org were:

  • Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.
  • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.
  • Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup.
  • Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.
  • Ninety-two percent of women surveyed listed reducing domestic violence and sexual assault as their top concern.
  • Based on reports from 10 countries, between 55 percent and 95 percent of women who had been physically abused by their partners had never contacted non-governmental organizations, shelters, or the police for help.

I hope that if any of you who are reading this have been in an abusive relationship and are too scared to leave, are empowered but this post and take action. Remember girls, no one deserves to be hurt emotionally or physically, and we women are stronger than that! 

Kim Kardashian- A role model?

14 Mar

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So…. Kim Kardashian, also known as many teenage girls’ idol is famous for ……….

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:CRICKET: :CRICKET:

Yeah, no one seems to know / no one wants to just type it. However, it shocks me that there are so many beautiful, inspiring women out in the world that aren’t getting recognized, however here Kim Kardashian is getting paid, recognized, and loved by beloved fans across the world.

If you really think about it, the women that are in media daily are celebs like Lindsey Lohan and Kim Kardashian, those who have no talent, and those who are getting DUI’s and lawsuits. What is this teaching to society about a woman? (Unless you’re Kris Jenner, who loves publicity whether it be positive or negative)

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What makes a good role model though? In fact, what makes a good woman role model? A role model should be one who inspires others to do well and become their very best. The media seems to put out what a “woman” is, and it’s not coming out so much as a positive.

The sad part is, these teenage girls who are watching television and reading magazines are seeing these celebs bringing in money for doing what? Getting caught doing not so girly things, getting in trouble with the law, and even getting scandalous photos of them by paparazzi. These teenagers aren’t getting what a real woman role model should be.

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Instead of smarts, teenage girls are aspiring to look “sexy” in their tight clothes. Instead of generous, girls are trying to play cool and “hard to get”. Instead of being in the school library studying for exams, these girls are practicing their sexy smiles in the mirror.

If you ask me, intelligence, health, brains, respect are a lot more powerful words than sexy, provocative, makeup, and mini black dress.

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Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton are mainly famous for one reason, and one reason only; their sex tape, which went viral. (Whether you agree or disagree with me that truly is what launched their careers and fame).

Keeping Up With The Kardashian’s, which mind you has one of the highest ranked viewers, is what teenage girls are watching. Kim, who isn’t even married, is now pregnant with Kanye West’s baby. Positive role model if you ask me! (Sarcasm).

So, instead of turning the next era of teenage girls into “teenage mom” aspiring actresses, I think we should be more focused on making a change in society. Instead of being focused on how “hot” you look in your new dress, girls- why don’t you see how you’ll be when you’re 25 and unemployed.

We need to change our attitudes on what a decent role model is and actually understand what the word means and the values that come with.

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“Dressing Sexy and Appropriate”

11 Mar

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Ladies – How many have you ever been in the situation when you’re out with your friends and you see a girl walk into the bar wearing either: 1) the shortest skirt your eyes have ever seen 2) boots that you automatically think she is a hooker 3) a shirt low enough to see her belly button? 4) All of the above!

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Dressing to “please” your friends or audience is a tricky factor because most of us do it to stand out, and most of the time it comes off as “revealing” clothes. By following a couple of my tips and guidelines, you will certainly save yourself the whispers behind your back and the embarrassment!

See, the problem that us girls have are is that we think the only way men will notice us is if we wear something scandalous, sexy, and revealing. Well, that is a red flag to most men! Why would you want to come off looking like an easy girl when you can easily dress sexy but appropriate? In this post I’m going to tell you how to dress appropriately in certain situations.

There are many ways to stand out, but in a classy way, especially if you are out with your girlfriends. The three main factors you should know before you go out are: 1) Know your environment. 2) The weather 3) the crowds that are usually there.

So, the next time you’re in your closet throwing every shirt and blazer you have on the floor because it “doesn’t look good” just refer back to this post and you’ll be set!

To work/ internship:

Although I am “team leggings”, leggings are a big red flag in the working business, unless you wear a cute long sweater to cover that behind! You don’t want to be known as the girl who is wearing “leggings as pants” which basically shows every part of your buttocks to the office.

Looking good will make the office respect you more as business woman, especially if you are the new girl in the office, plus it’ll make all the hot guys in the office look your way!  You don’t want to be called into HR and be questioned about your clothes. There is a way to look sexy, but keeping it “office” sexy.

Try wearing a sweater, skirt and a cameo that is tucked into the skirt. Blazers are a great way to cover up your arms, and it gives you that professional look. You don’t need a mini skirt to show off your legs ladies, you can wear a pair of nice long office pants that still give you the mean and lean look.

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With trying on pants, if you try them on and you see the outline of your thong, they are too small. Don’t always go with the size standard of a small, medium, or large. Go with what fits your sexy body instead.

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On Dates:

The most important thing about looking sexy on a date is that you don’t look like you spent 10 hours on picking out the best outfit before he picked up. Come on, we don’t want to look desperate! Make him think you wake up looking that hot. He doesn’t need to know that you spent weeks picking out the outfit your wearing, your last paycheck on a new set of highlights, and a big portion of your paycheck on those French manicured nails. If you come dressing like you borrowed a dress from Rihanna, he’s going to think you are trying way too hard.

If you like all different types of clothing you should check out this website, where they have all different styles and also accessories, shoes, and a great “sales” tab.

http://www.nastygal.com à This website is easy to find clothes, and so far every time I’ve bought something from it, I’ve not only loved it, but I try to wear it as much as possible. Check it out! It will come in handy if you are looking for work clothes, or out on the town clothes.

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Out for a night of fun:

When you are out with your friends, you never know what will happen. I know when I’m out with my friends that are usually the case. Always remember, you never you know you’ll end up standing the entire night, or dancing the entire night. These tips will make you feel hot, and look hot (and maybe even hotter than your friends!) You don’t want to be looked at as the slutty friend, not now, not ever.

Remember:  If your shirt is see-through, make sure you wear a bandeau underneath, or a tank top. See-through shirts seem to come off slutty, whether that is your incentive or not.  A white shirt and black bra comes off slutty as well. Try wearing a pear of nice fitted jeans, with a tucked in leotard tank with a hot color belt. This way, tucking in your shirt will show those boys you have curves and a sexy body!

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Again, try looking at www.nastygal.com. Everything on their website gives a sexy, confident and appropriate look to your outfit.

Working out:

Come on girls. Spring break is only a few days away! This means, you know your behind is in the gym! No one likes it though when a girl comes into the gym with her hair down, and the cutest sports workout outfit you’ve seen. No. When you are at the gym, you should be focused on sweating and working out, not being looked at by the juicehead men grunting and screaming.

A recent survey shows that most men at the gym don’t find girls who “look like they are trying too hard” attractive at the gym! (WARNING). Most men notice the girls who are actually working out with technique.  Try shopping at Nike or Reebok for your workout clothes. Not only are they cute, they are comfortable and don’t look like your spending hours to get ready to sweat.

Tip: NEVER WEAR A REGUALR BRA. SPORTS BRA, SPORTS, BRA, AND DID I MENTION, SPORTS BRA?

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So, next time you’re going out, just remember a few easy tips and you’ll be good to go!

-The Successful Single

Bahama Mama’s- Hoboken, NJ!

5 Mar

It’s Friday night and you and your girlfriends are debating what to do. Well, I have an amazing suggestion for you girls!

Bahama Mama’s located at 215 Washington Street, in Hoboken New Jersey! Not only is it located on one of the most “happening” streets; they have a lot of other positives.

1)     The location – The location is great. If you take the train in, it is only a few blocks away, and we all know walking in our cute heels can be a bit difficult, so the fact Bahama Mama’s is close is great! Also, it is very close to Black Bear Bar & Grill, The Whiskey Bar, and The Brass Rail.

2)     Drink Specials! Okay, face it- no matter how much money you are receiving after a hard week of work, who doesn’t love a delicious specialty drink, and even better, who doesn’t love a delicious drink that isn’t going to empty your wallet? Bahama mama’s has HAPPY HOUR Thursdays, Fridays, and Sundays! The best part about it is you can get

Thursdays: $1 beers all night on Thursdays, $2 drafts, $4 frozen drinks for you Pina colada lovers, and $4 Specialty Drinks

Fridays: $3 Bud Light Bottles, and $5 Vodka Drinks.

Saturdays: $5 Don Q Rum Drinks!

There is no other bar that does such great drink specials like Bahama Mama’s – and the perks don’t stop here!

3)     Love to dance? Bahama Mama’s always has the best music that you will want to get up and dance all night. Whether it’s music playing or the hottest DJ’s spinning the best music that is hot right now, you will be guaranteed a great time!

4)     The space! Bahama Mama’s is a great place that if you don’t like smushed up against a wall the entire night, this place is for you! There is always room for everyone no matter how many people are in the bar!

5)     The atmosphere- The walls are red, ceiling is bright blue, and there is a “beach theme” all round! So, no matter if its snowing out, you will have that beach relaxation feeling all night, especially if you order a refreshing Pina Colada!

So, the next time you make your way to Hoboken, make sure to check our Bahama Mama’s and check out all the great things that are mentioned above! Cheers!

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