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Little Things Matter – Internships

This week I’m going to talk about being professional, but in the ways you wouldn’t normally think of. Internships are a great way to kick-start your future landing of a job, and with these few tips, you can seriously obtain your dream job! Although these tips aren’t “huge factors” trust me- they make a difference!

Being on time: We all hate that alarm clock that wakes us up from our perfect dream of us marrying your celebrity crush and driving away in a Lamborghini (okay at least those are my dreams) but being on time is so important. You never know who will be in the office when you get there, and if you stroll in late it not only makes YOU look irresponsible, but it makes the company you’re interning for look bad as well. A little key, if you know you are always a few minutes late (which still is unacceptable!) try setting your alarm clock a few minutes earlier so you can have those extra needed minutes! 


Eye contact: No matter if you’re talking to your boss, another co-worker, or a guest of the office, eye contact is very important! Why you may ask? Eye contact shows the other person you have their full attention and that you are listening to what they are saying. It’s rude to be texting or looking out the window when someone is trying to speak to you! Remember that!


Shaking hands: Shaking someone’s hand when meeting them is so important, especially in this industry! Shaking someone’s hand shows him or her that you respect him or her. More importantly is that you are giving a firm grip! No one wants to shake a non-confident “wimpy” handshake! Be confident as you shake their hand!


Leaving the office as you left it: Hey, we all eat, drink coffee, and use scrap papers throughout the entire day, however it is not okay to leave your scraps on the desk! If you are going to eat, or drink something make sure you throw it away before leaving the office. Make sure it looks the same way as it did when you entered that morning!

Girls Night In: Sleepover

So girls-

 

How many times have you just came home from school or work and just wanted to crawl into bed with a bottle of Pinot Grigio, and rent a movie and call it a night?

WHOA- Everyone, put your hands down!

Do you remember back when you were a little girl, and your mother would call “Susie’s” mother and plan a sleepover for you two? I remember those days like it were yesterday. Those “girl” sleepovers were the best.

Pillow fights, junk food, trash talking boys, and of course, staying up late! For the first time ever, the Successful Single is here to challenge you to the following:

Get a group of your friends, a bottle of wine (or 3) and have an old school sleepover. Forget all your stress, problems, and upcoming assignments due Monday. This sleepover is dedicated totally to you!

In this sleepover, you will talk about everything positive. Go around the room, and every time you say something positive about yourself, you can take a sip of your wine! (Trust me, it’ll be an incentive to drink!).

Snacks:

According to Seventeen Magazine, the perfect Sleepover Snack is popcorn, however, they changed it up a bit!

 

You will need: 3 teaspoons of margarine, ¾ cups of brown sugar (lightly packed) ½ cup of peanuts, dark corn syrup, 1 teaspoon of vanilla, ½ teaspoon of baking soda, 1 dash of salt, and 5 cups of popcorn.

 

When you’re done gathering, microwave the margarine and then mix in all a bowl with all of the ingredients above. After you place it over the 5 cups of popcorn, microwave it all and then let it cool! Break it into pieces, and then enjoy!

 

Remember that fun game Jenga? (DUH!) On an old game of Jenga, on each piece of block, write a dare and a truth. Whichever block you girls pick, you must either perform the dare or answer the truth! Fun!

 

Let me know how the sleepover goes – And remember, no boyfriend talk!

Source: http://www.seventeen.com/parties/ideas/slumber-party-ideas-for-teens#slide-1

 

Double Standards

Double standards, we all are guilty of them, whether we like to admit it or not. In the dating world, there are a lot of double standards, men and women face.

Breaking up:

When dealing with a “break up” the men always seem like the jerks and the women are the victims. Whether the girl is the jerk in the situation or not, she always seems to get the victim card- and we play it well thank you very much!

Girls are allowed to cry and use boxes of tissues after a breakup, but if a tear came strolling down a guys face, they would never hear the end of it!

Paying for Dates:

            No matter if you are dating for days, months, or years, the man is always expected to pay for the dinner. I find this so insulting because not only do I like paying for my own things, I actually can pay for my own things! Who says that a guy should pay for a woman every single time they are out? I think it should be even, and if you are with someone for a long time, you both should switch every other meal. (Or just stay home and cook together; it’ll be bonding time plus save you the extra cash!)

Cheating:

            Lets face it, if one of you cheats – there are different consequences for both genders. If a girl cheats, she is now known as a whore, a slut, a common girl who will be now be known as “the whore who cheated on ______”

            On the flip side, if a guy cheats, his reputation does not go down the drain, no in fact he may even be looked at as a hero to the male race. His friends will high five them as he explains his one nightstand with the random girl from the bar.

            This specific double standard is one of the ones that make me so mad. There is only one way to fix this though, if you are in a relationship…… DON’T CHEAT! It’s not science people!

Flirting:

            When it comes to flirting, if you are a guy who is flirting outside, you come off as a player. Whether you are being nice or you actually are flirting, it comes off as you being a jerk and player.

            If you a girl however, if you are out and about flirting, it doesn’t come off that way. Instead, it comes off as you being a nice girl!

            If a girl approaches a guy at a bar, she comes off as being “aggressive” or flirtatious, when if a guy approaches a woman, he comes off as being cool and slick.

Whipped VS. Clingy:

            In any relationship, if a girl does what a guy wants and answers to him, she is viewed as clingy. One attribute you don’t want! If she calls and texts you and asks you where you are, you are viewed as clingy Most girls are actually viewed as this, whether they are or not. Men hate clingy girls, and one thing I take pride in is not being clingy.

            Men on the other hand have it a little worse. The equal attribute of “clingy” for men would be whipped! Girls love to have their boys whipped, whether it be them calling and texting them as soon as they “get to the bar with the boys” or them showing up to your house with roses, boys being known as whipped is a terrible thing. Girls love having their men whipped, and truthfully I do not know why! I think a guy should be the dominant one in the relationship.

            The conclusion is, dating is not easy! Something that should be based around love is based on rules and you look to your friends.

 

Until next time,

-The Successful Single

 

 

 

 

Teak on the Hudson – Girls Night out!

Hoboken- the only place in northern New Jersey where it is acceptable to act like a drunken slob, and be accompanied by even more drunken slobs.

Now, if you aren’t into the whole “bar” scene also known as a chill place where you just get blacked out and flirt with strangers who will buy you a drink so you can make them look cool by the bar, there are more options for you in Hoboken. (Yet another reason why Hoboken is the best!)

 

Teak on the Hudson, which is located on 16-18 Hudson Place, Hoboken New Jersey 07030 – is the place for you. The greatest thing in my opinion about this place is the fact it is seriously about a 1-minute walk from the train station. This means, you can get off the train, walk 10 feet, get to your destination, and not have to leave that early to ensure you don’t miss your train.

AWESOME!

Also, this place is a lot classier than what you’re going to find anywhere else. The décor is beautiful from their lighting to their unique decorations – it makes you feel like you are at a venue in New York City! Also, they have a cool fish tank that is lit up across the bar, which automatically gives you a classy feeling!

 

Teak on the Hudson always seems to have the hottest beats that make you want to dance from the minute you walk in to the minute you leave. Their music is usually “house” music and a variety of songs that are popular during the time you are there.

 

Another thing great about Teak is the fact not only can you go there to dance and have a great night, you can get an early start and go for lunch, dinner, and they even have a sushi bar! (Hopefully not from the LED fish tank!)

 

An example of an appetizer from the Teak Dinner menu is crab spinach dip that is creamed spinach topped with crabmeat served with flat bread and topped with cheddar cheese and salsa! Well, if you ask me- that sounds delicious!

 

Appetizers are a smart idea if you know you’ll be drinking all night so you have something in your stomach but you also aren’t full!

 

This is awesome that you can actually go to one destination and have dinner, and then know you can stay there for a night of fun. This was a very strategic idea of the owners of Teak!

 

The lounge in Teak is beautiful as well. They have a very virtual looking scene where there are big screens showing video images set to the beat of the music!

 

The best part in my opinion of Teak is the view! You can completely see the Hudson, hence why the name of the place is called Teak on the Hudson. You will never be disappointed here especially when you and your single friends are out here!

Whenever you go and pass Teak, there is always a live crowed outside and inside and you can hear the music from outside. It is a great environment if you are looking for more of a “classy” night with you and your girlfriends!

WHY!

Hey everyone. Quick morning thought as I woke up. I promise i’ll be posting more – been busy (i mean successful…..???) Ha!

 

Anyways, this is a teaser of what posts are soon to come 🙂 Feel free to give suggestions!

• More on domestic violence
• Celebs that are successful
• Outfits
• Snacks to bring on the go
• Intern Tips
• Bad words to call girls
• OTHER!

Can’t wait -Again, thanks for all the positive feedback! Loving it!

La’Nae

This is a serious post everyone. After doing much research on the subject of women domestic violence, I came across a girl who was not only beautiful on the inside, but as well as the outside. I told her about my blog, and that I would appreciate it if I could interview her because I could see she had her own blog about domestic violence.

 

I realized after conducting the interview, sometimes no matter how hard you want to leave- you just can’t. You are trapped. No woman should ever feel like that, helpless- anything and unfortunately Le’Nae Jenkins from Massachusetts had this happen to her.

 

Luckily, she was able to turn to religion to help her gain back her confidence and ultimately get her life back! Below are some of the questions that I asked La’Nae, and she was more than welcoming with her answers. I want to thank you La’nae for being so kind to me and help me try to stop this terrible subject that happens everyday.

 

Also, girls – learn that leaving won’t hurt you more—it’ll help.

 

First off – Why do you think it is you longed for love? Why did you need that “male” compassion? Did it make you feel better knowing you had a male in your life

 

I longed for love because growing up I didn’t have a mother or father to show that to me. Many may think it doesn’t affect a child, but in all reality it does. You begin to think that you did something wrong for them to leave you or that you weren’t good enough. Also, a father is an important piece to a child’s life whether male or female. But, for a female when you don’t have a father you want to receive love from men. If you don’t have a dad telling you how pretty you are, etc. you expect a man to give that to you. At the time it did make me feel better knowing i had a male in my life who “cared” for me. But deep inside I felt like I had a hole in my heart, as if something was still missing. Looking back now I realize that I needed God & ONLY Him to fulfill the hole & desires of my heart.

 

Besides turning to god, what have you done to be able to have positive relationships with men since the abuse?

 

It’s tough to answer that question because without God it would be impossible to have positive relationships with the opposite sex. I would still be broken inside, but God transformed my mind & now I’m able to see men as friends as well as brothers. I don’t only see them as “potential mates” now.

Without God I would be bitter towards men or just continue to think if they were friendly with me that they liked me & I would fall in the same trap again.

 

Did you think the abuse was your fault? Why did you still stay with him?

 

There were times where I thought the abuse was my fault because of the manipulation. He would say things such as “Well if you didn’t do this then this wouldn’t have happened.” So I would think I was the cause of it all. I stayed with him because I was afraid to leave. I also stayed because my heart was already open to him. He was the only male who truly “showed me love” even through the abuse.

 

Did you tell anyone you were getting hurt either emotionally or physically?

 

12:41pm

I never told anyone about me getting hurt physically because I didn’t want them forcing me to leave him. I wanted to make that decision on my own. Emotionally, I’m sure everyone could tell I wasn’t happy at some point in the relationship. We wouldn’t be together as much and he was well known so I’m sure everyone knew what he was doing behind my back. It was hard trying to put on a mask as if I was happy when everyone knew what was going on.

 

How long did the abuse last for before you had enough?

 

The abuse lasted for a year and a few months.

 

 How long of a process was it to be able to trust someone and open up to them again, while making yourself vulnerable?

 

The process took years for me to be able to open up to anyone and trust again. God was trying to heal me but I always ran away from the process. It was even hard opening up to God about things even thou He knew my hurts and pains. It wasn’t until the beginning of this year that Jesus finally set me free from the hurt. Now I’m able to open up and be transparent showing everyone what God did for me. I’m able to show everyone that God is able to do amazing things.

 

 

if you had the chance to see him for 10 minutes, what would you say or do, if he were restrained

 

Would you take revenge on him and kick his ass, or take the high ground and not speak to him, or just say like “you really hurt me, physically and emotionally. but you can’t hurt me anymore”

 

What would you tell girls who think the only way to be happy is if they are in relationships? What advice will you tell them to love them first before any man?

 

or girls who think that the only way to be happy is through relationships, I would say that they’re wrong. A man cannot make you happy because as humans we all fall short. He will always disappoint us & it’s selfish to expect high expectations or perfection from a human being when we’re not perfect ourselves. I’m speaking from experience when I say that the ONLY relationship you can be happy in is a relationship with Jesus Christ. I never saw how it was possible when people told me that because I can’t see Him. But I know from experience & how He changed my life that I can only be fulfilled through a relationship with Him. It’s definitely important for a woman to make sure she sees worth in herself before she dates a man. If you don’t see your own worth & value, how can you expect anyone (not only a man) to see that in you? The Bible says women are worth MORE than rubies!!!! You’re a RUBY in God’s eyes! How much more do you deserve a man who loves God & treats you like a ruby! Also, a woman can definitely be happy without a man. If you’re not happy without one then you’ll never be happy even with him because like I said you’ll keep expecting perfection from him. Only God can truly satisfy the desires of your heart. I promise you that. I know from experience. Don’t cling to human beings who will fail you, but cling to the God who is EVERLASTING & who will NEVER fail you. He is faithful, I promise you that.

 

lso, before dating you must be happy with who you are in Christ. Find your value in HIM. Couples should come together when they’re already happy as a single. They shouldn’t come together to find happiness in each other,

 

ALSO – Can a girl be happy without a man? What are your views on this?

 

 

Did you become religious after the fact, or has god played a role in your life always?

if the former, how has your faith helped you heal

 

Well I always believed in God. It wasn’t until near the end of the relationship that I heard about salvation through Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ died to save me from my sins and saved me from hell so that I can have eternal life in Him & full restoration. I’ve come to know & understand that being a Christian doesn’t involve religion but a true, pure, heartfelt relationship with God. My faith in God has definitely helped me heal because He’s the only one who could truly understand my pain. It didn’t matter how many counselors I saw, they were human like me & they couldn’t really get into the depth of my heart where e pain needed to be taken from. God was only able to touch my heart & uproot pains & hurts that I tried to suppress. He helped me step by step through prayer & really seeking after Him