Abusive Relationships? Get outta here!

17 Mar

You love him, but he calls you names. You love him, but he doesn’t appreciate you. You love him, but he beats you. You love him but he tells you not to tell anyone or he’ll break up with you.

It’s disturbing to even think that so many girls are put in the above situation, and let it happen. I know it’s hard to say what you would do unless you were in the specific setting, but I feel as if even though I was in love, if a guy ever were to disrespect me whether it is verbally or physically, I would leave him in a second.

I guess this has to do with part of me being so independent, which has always worked to my advantage.  When I think of girls who actually would stay with men who abusive them, it makes me feel angry, and confused. I don’t get why a girl would keep herself in that position if they were being hurt. However, I think this goes to a psychological chapter of a girls life that if one is insecure or feels they need “love” they will do whatever it takes to stay with that person, which is truthfully upsetting for m

I personally know one girl who was abusive by her boyfriend, and actually stayed with him. Don’t get me wrong, this girl is a pretty girl, smart, funny, and extremely put together, however her confidence level is down the drain. When she finally told us that she was being hurt and abusive by her former ex boyfriend, it made me shocked.

The one thing I learned after doing research about domestic women violence is that most of the people who are being abused are those who do not show any emotion and act like everything is okay, which was the case in the above situation.

Some facts that I thought were super crazy and interesting regarding domestic violence that I found from www.domesticviolencestatistics.org were:

  • Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.
  • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.
  • Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup.
  • Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.
  • Ninety-two percent of women surveyed listed reducing domestic violence and sexual assault as their top concern.
  • Based on reports from 10 countries, between 55 percent and 95 percent of women who had been physically abused by their partners had never contacted non-governmental organizations, shelters, or the police for help.

I hope that if any of you who are reading this have been in an abusive relationship and are too scared to leave, are empowered but this post and take action. Remember girls, no one deserves to be hurt emotionally or physically, and we women are stronger than that! 


One Response to “Abusive Relationships? Get outta here!”

  1. filipinaaz March 18, 2013 at 7:43 am #


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